I decided I wasn’t going to let my dreams die with me.
Not the quiet ones.
Not the ones that kept whispering, there’s more.
This page is my devotion to living while I’m still alive.
Some dreams I’ll cross off alone.
Some I’ll cross off with others.
Some require witnesses.
If something here wakes something in you,
you’re already part of it.
The Bucket List 〰️
Vy’s Bucket List
1. Salsa dance with locals in another country
2. Skydive
3. Zip-line in the jungle
4. Swim in bioluminescent water
5. Swim with sharks
6. Learn how to surf
7. Go parasailing (and break an ankle)
8. Sleep under the stars in the desert
9. White water rafting
10. Race dune buggies
11. Go on an African safari
12. Sail the Croatian Islands
13. Take a cross country trip with a friend
14. See the Northern Lights in Iceland’s Hot Springs
15. Hike the Patagonian trail
16. Island-hop somewhere tropical
17. Spontaneously wake up in another country
18. Escape a country during civil unrest
19. Helicopter ride in Hawaii
20. Take a private charter plane for a spontaneous day trip
21. Fly first class
22. Sleep in iconic places
23. Catch something and eat it
24. Polar Bear Plunge in Norway
25. Hot air balloon at sunrise in Turkey
26. Start a soul train at a wedding
27. Sing to a random group of strangers
28. Dance battle a stranger in a crowd
29. Scream at the top of your lungs
30. 10 day Vipassana silent meditation retreat
31. Wear a wacky costume to a fancy restaurant
32. Get hired as a video vixen in a music video
33. Walk the red carpet
34. Hire Dave Chapelle
35. Learn how to work a camera
36. Take improv comedy classes
37. Street perform and make $100
38. Volunteer at a soup kitchen during the holidays
39. Throw an epic party with very little notice
40. Throw a surprise party for a loved one
41. Send your favorite book to a friend anonymously
42. Make pottery in a geodesic glass dome
43. Make wine
44. Sew my own outfit
45. Learn how to meditate
46. Go to an adult summer camp
47. Master pole dancing
48. Get arrested
49. Learn a new art medium (ceramics, watercolor, glass blowing)
50. Perform on stage (open mic, storytelling, dance)
51. Start a personal brand or passion project
52. Create a business that impacts thousands of people
53. Be a mentor
54. Host a lemonade stand with a child for a day
55. Mission project in community
56. Co-create a retreat or workshop
57. Give a TED Talk
58. Write an article for a major publication
59. Go to gun range with some manly men
60. Get something named after me
61. Make someone’s dream come true
62. Help a friend cross something off their list
63. Foster a dog
64. Plant a tree
65. Start an urban garden
66. Create care packages for the homeless
67. Give a stranger $100
68. Pay for someone’s groceries
69. Make a big donation to charity
70. Start a GoFundMe for a friend in need
71. Take kids on a shopping spree
72. Join a protest for something that matters
73. Perform for an elementary school class
74. Record a podcast episode
75. Pay off over six figures of debt
76. Fall in love
77. Have a spicy romance in Italy
78. Get my heart broken
79. Meet the love of my life
80. Tell someone “I love you” first
81. Learn Tantra with a partner
82. Get naked with strangers
83. Go to Burning Man
84. Attend a play party
85. Bathe naked in a river after a women’s medicine retreat
86. Take yourself on a solo date in a new city
87. Play naked Twister
88. Do a Boudoir photoshoot
89. Self-development workshop with a partner
90. Tell my parents I forgive them
91. Be serenaded in public
92. Mend a broken friendship
93. Go on a date with a famous person
94. Take a conscious kink weekend workshop
95. Seduce myself in front of another
96. Make a toast at a stranger’s wedding
97. Take a stranger out for dinner
98. Send flowers to a friend anonymously
99. Streak in a field
100. Have sexy time in a public place
Turning “Someday” Into Now
In 2025, my mom’s life changed in an instant. A series of strokes left her completely dependent, unable to speak, move, or care for herself. She spent her entire life in a state of survival—worrying, giving, and putting everyone else first, raising seven children and putting her own dreams on hold. She never got to live the life she desired, and suddenly everything she had been was gone.
It all happened in a heartbeat. As I watched her lying there, completely dependent, helpless, and suddenly trapped in a body that could no longer hold her spirit, it broke my heart and shook me to the core. I felt a grief that cut deeper than I ever imagined.
And in that grief, a fire ignited inside me. I refused to let my life slip away while fear, obligation, or hesitation kept me from my own dreams. I refused to wait for someday. And so I began cataloging my bucket list. Every adventure I seek, every joy I claim, every dream I chase is my act of devotion to life itself. It is my promise to live fully, fiercely, intentionally, and to honor my mom and the women who came before me, who gave everything and never got to live the life she deserved.
This bucket list is my rebellion against unfulfilled years. It is my way of saying yes to myself, yes to joy, and yes to living while I still can.
My Why
This isn’t about adrenaline or proving anything.
It’s about honoring the parts of me that were told to be practical, patient, realistic, grateful.
The parts that learned to postpone joy.
Every entry here is a refusal to abandon myself. A practice of choosing aliveness over someday.
The top regret people at the end of their life is not regretting something they did, it’s regretting something they didn’t do.
Who I Be
I’m Vy (Vee), the Creatrix behind JOIE DE VY.
I don’t want to be remembered for what I achieved.
I want to be remembered for how fully I lived.
This is me saying yes before the moment passes.
Before the body forgets.
Before the dream quiets itself to keep the peace.
If you feel called to help bring one of these dreams into form,
through presence, partnership, resources, or simple belief…
I welcome you.